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It's Legitimate True Fondness Does Survive

By Mellissa Shilpa

Professionals 'prove' passion can be perfect .. but it takes a year to flourish.

Disregard love at initial sight - experts have discovered real love only begins after 12 months.

Research has revealed real love blossoms with time, especially for men.

A six-month study of lovers who met through dating agencies discovered those who experienced real love had been together the longest.



Genuine love, what the professionals call consummate love, is a wonderful balance of passion, closeness and devotion.

Of the 149 couples who took part in the investigation, 61% described their emotions as this wonderful type of love.

And of these, nearly all had been in their relationship for a year or more.

Additional types identified include -

Companiate Love: A relationship with high levels of intimacy and dedication but lower levels of passion

Fondness Love: Where there's closeness, but without passion or commitment

Dreamy Love: Intimacy and passion without devotion

Fatuous Love: Commitment devoid of passion or closeness.

According to the study, men are more expected to discover true love than ladies.

About 67% of men, compared with 57% of women, said they currently had perfect love.

The study also found women were a good deal more expected to come across "liking love" than men.

The initial steps of a relationship, or the "primary sight" phase, often reveals what scientists call "nonlove", representing low levels of intimacy, passion and dedication.

"Love is an eminent predictor of accomplishment, firmness and relationship pleasure. It may be a multi-faceted notion, but love is viewed in our investigation as the joint feelings of understanding, passion and pledge that one has for a partner."

"To date, there has been no systematic investigation of love in the situation of relations formed via online dating sites.

"But with the popularity of online dating, it is essential that we appreciate the factors that influence happiness in relationships formed in this way."

Web dating sites are an progressively more popular way to meet partners and have shed much of the stigma that one time put people off.

Maud Garner, 42, and 37-year-old Michael Staines got together on 52sexy.com 16 months ago.

They immediately hit it off and have been inseparable ever since. The couple from Newport, South Wales Valley, first met a couple of days after emailing one another.

In two months, they moved in together and last November had their first child, David.

They propose to get wedded in November next year and say they have in no way been happier.

Mandy Court and Project Manager Stephen Moore look as if to be experiencing "perfect love".

Sharon, a Admin Consultant, said: "Alan and I had talked so much by email and then chatted on the phone that meeting up wasn't problematic.

"We already knew lots about each other so it was like meeting up with an mature friend."

Their relationship became significant very rapidly and they decided they were right for one another after simply a few months.

Sharon added: "We just clicked right away.

"I can't put my finger on it but when you come across somebody and all just falls into place, it's effortless.

"I think we'd been together only a couple of weeks when I realised I was in love. Currently I can't think of a time when I didn't love Martin Davis.

"We had chatted about having a family and it was something that was going to be in our future.

"Charlie simply came along earlier than expected.

"Things are as fine now if not better than they were when we initially got together, so I think the investigation is right."

It supports our idea that the internet and email does in fact give confidence conventional courtship. This enhances a kind of loving courtship that can be sporadic when meeting possible partners on the bar scene."

When you meet someone and the whole thing just falls into position, it's effortless!

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