These 5 tips can help you and your lover stay together long after tying the knot:
TIP#1 -- Waiting Is Often Better
It's a well-documented fact that couples who have dated for more than a year before getting married have a much lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period. Why?
A year of dating allows time for a variety of emotions to surface and character traits to be discovered.You might adore someone in the spring, but despise them by winter.
Asking someone for their hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling (some would say crazy).
TIP#2 -- Continue Dating
Over time, people often drift apart. Relationships and marriages can become stale when couples neglect to do new and special things together.
That's why going out on unique dates is so important. Something about dating seems to create a sense of magic in a
relationship, even those relationships that are stuck in a rut.
When on a date, you typically put a bit more effort into your appearance. You have more uninterrupted time to
communicate on a deeper level, and are naturally drawn closer together.
Need some ideas? How about a day at the zoo, aquarium, carnival, museum, beach or park, or even shopping together?
TIP#3 -- Make An Effort To Understand Your Partner
Often couples with the most problems are the ones that say, "I just don't understand him/her."
How knowledgeable are you about your mate's job or the degree they are working on? Do you know anything about their
family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about their hobbies or interests? If you are a man, do you
understand what women experience during PMS or menopause?
You don't need to have identical interests, but make an effort to learn about your partner's interests in life and you'll grow closer as a result.
TIP#4 -- Constantly Express Your Love
Often, as a relationship matures, partners stop praising each other because they assume their partner already knows what they're thinking.
In reality, you should never let a day go by without praising your partner. Compliment her on her cooking. Tell him that he's the greatest person in the world or that he's a wonderful role model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance her first. When your partner is feeling loved, it is much easier for her to love in return.
Are you an enthusiastic supporter of what your partner does and says? Do you cheer them on and praise them constantly? Or do they all too often hear criticism or silence?
TIP#5 -- Discuss The *BIG* Questions For Couples
Does your partner want children? Do you both want careers? Do either of you have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they attend church?
In my opinion, the biggest reason nearly half of all marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask each other the right questions for couples BEFORE they get married.
I suppose people think they'll be able to change their spouses after marriage and everything will be better. Guess again! If you don't sit down and discuss those get to know questions on religion, finances, housing, sex, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with an endless stream of arguments for the rest of your life.
If you each have different views, goals and desires in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or 'I love you’s' will keep you together.
Make it your top priority to understand each other inside-out BEFORE you take the plunge into marriage. Ask the serious as well as the fun questions for couples.
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